Deja Vu

Been a typical weekend so far. It was lazy initially. I slept super late. Woke up early for some odd reason. Had my lunch and breakfast. Brief study period and I fell asleep again. Woke up in the around 4 and had to study again. Went out in the evening for a while and that’s when this moment happened. A Deja Vu moment and it just made me think how little we know about it. Infact till I was about 10 or 12. I didn’t even know what it was called and I used to think it was just me who had those moments. Felt weird but obviously as you grow older, you learn more. My cousin sister and I would often share such moments , whenever we had them. Sadly, I’m still not sure how or why they actually occur.

For those who don’t know what a Deja Vu moment is? Deja Vu is French and literally means “already seen”. Those who have experienced the feeling describe it as an overwhelming sense of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. Say, for example, you are traveling to England for the first time. You are touring a cathedral, and suddenly it seems as if you have been in that very spot before. Or maybe you are having dinner with a group of friends, discussing some current political topic, and you have the feeling that you’ve already experienced this very thing — same friends, same dinner, same topic.

Now I bet you’ve all felt that before and had it happen before. Now it obviously made me try and recall all my moments and even though I can’t remember many (I obviously forget a lot) I don’t think there have been any that are really profound or stand out. However it did make me google it though and just get a little insight out for myself. Now technically? Many psychoanalysts attribute déjà vu to simple fantasy or wish fulfillment, while some psychiatrists ascribe it to a mismatching in the brain that causes the brain to mistake the present for the past.  Now it becomes more profound, the experience if you suffere from a temporal-lobe epilepsy that is. Now we all know most of us don’t. So what MAKES it happen?

Again , a lot of the parapyschologists around think it’s related to your past and ofcourse, seems a valid thing considering that’s what the core of the feeling is: something that you’ve done before. It funnily reminds you of all those movies where the actor goes back in time or alters it or gets a chance to head into the future to alter it. Something like the Butterfly Effect. Now this obviously doesn’t quite work that way but the idea is fascinating nonetheless 😀

Another theory I’ve heard from a friend is on Parallel universe’s and it’s somehow an interdimensional connection and you experience or get the imprints of similiar experiences you might have lived somewhere else. Seems far-fetched to me but again, you get all sorts of theories running around. Now another one could be where you see a building in your dream and coincidentally you come across  that building in real life. So at that moment , you will experience the Deja Vu. Another interesting option is where your brain catches up on a previous thought you left behind. We are continuously thinking and there are times when you forget about something and get engrossed in something else. You try to recall what you were doing or what you were supposed to do but can’t. Now in the future course if you come across that task or thing, you may experience a Deja Vu. Considering you left it incomplete and it was a part of your subconscious.

I’ll let you in on a few user accounts and experience from people and let you choose what to make of it 😀

1. “More like your subconscious storing the images, confusing your conscious mind when the images are seen again. Like trying to save the same file twice on your computer. Deja vu would be like your computer asking to replace or rename the file, but you can’t recall saving the file the first time. “

2. “In the case of deja vu it is  a possibilty that we are neither looking into the past or present but for that minute we are in a limbo, where future and past overlap. I also know that I have dreamed my deja vu’s, and in many spiritual belief systems they say that a deja vu is a sign that you are on your right path in life”  (Never dreamt of Deja Vu moments so not sure what to make of that)

3. “In my déjá vu on the second repeat of the same incident I shouted stop and disrupted the event and told the two other people it was happening. Then I told them what they would say in turn. That interruption cause consternation and disbelief. However I had broken the déjá vu. “

4. “I remember one time when I had deja vu… I was at my grandmas house and my cousins, aunt and uncle were visiting. My oldest cousin asked my aunt for the hair straightener, and then I knew exactly what my aunt was going to say. She said “buried…in my car.” and while she said that, I said the same thing and explained to them how I was having deja vu and knew exactly what was going to happen. Deja vu is so weird but so amazing too. ”  (This one could again be on a more subconscious note. People say certain things and certain words they like to repeat. Could be your mind playing tricks, making you live that moment again through those words in your head)

5. “I understand the scientific theory about deja vu, but it does not really explain too many things. I have had the experience of knowing ahead of time what will happen. I have also had the experience of knowing – and stating aloud to others – what is around the next corner when I should not know. It seems perfectly natural while it is happening, even while my mind is thinking how strange it is.”

Honestly? the more I read into people? the more confusing it gets. Not to mention how freaky it can be, if your degree of experience is higher of different than a normal one. Either ways? I’ll never quite understand what or how it happens. Let’s just say science has the explanation. I’d love to hear your take on it though 😀

Lie To Me

My day started off pretty badly today. Woke up super late and had to eventually get ready in like 10 minutes and be off. Blame my phone. Or maybe me (for snoozing my alarms) or probably this epic dream I was having , just before I woke up. I swear , I had some amazing sleep. Sadly? I missed my alarms and I might’ve snoozed a couple. Fast Forward? I was a bit late. Not much , since I can get ready pretty darn fast.

Not a breakfast person but My dad insists. So I took this slice of bread , put some peanut butter and I was off (It wasn’t too bad). Reached my class about 15 minutes late but it was chill. The teacher/professer’s actually really cool and we get along. I just walked over calmly and said I had to stop over and buy the book he’d told me to get the other day. It was sort of an additional help. Fact is? I never really stopped for the book. I just found it convenient enough and I lied. Finally sat down and thought about it. I just lied , without really being too conscious about it. My amazing little brain just popped up with an excuse to save my ass! Geez! How many times have I done this? Lied without knowing? Or being conscious of the fact?

Reminded me of Dolores Umbridge..

Now we’re all brought up well. Brought up with certain prescribed rules in life. Certain etiquettes and I guess being truthful was always something your mother taught you. Behave , be on time and don’t lie. Manners that I guess make an integral part of the person you are. Now I’m not saying being late makes you any worse or takes away something from the man you are. Same with lying. However what I realised was , that we all lie on a day to day basis and it’s often too petty to even notice. We’ve grown accustomed to scenarios where we just HAVE to come up with a lie , an excuse. Or just lie to make someone feel better. Lie to not sound rude.

There I sat in class , thinking about it and I thought why not analyze my day and see how many lies I come up with at the end of it (subconsciously ofcourse)
I don’t remember any at all , barring a call I skipped in the evening from a friend. Just wasn’t in the mood to talk and I’d just woken up. Thought It’d be convenient to just tell him I was sleeping and that’s what I did. Texted him just before dinner and he said it was alright. Again , I really didn’t pay much attention to the fact that I lied. Looking back NOW? Yes. I can pay attention but in general? we really don’t tend to notice it. Or let’s put it this way , feel guilty.

I know it’s a bad habit. People will argue , it doesn’t get you quite far in the real world. Others ? quite the opposite. It’s a hard world and you just have to lie sometimes to get off the hook. To get a second chance. It’s the only hope sometimes.

As heroic as it may sound? The truth hurts. It’s bitter and it can’t be sugar coated. Some people want it. Most? can’t really face it or don’t like it. We just don’t want to face it. We’d rather have the sugar-coated side that can be easily digested. Now let’s say you have your project due and you didn’t really make it in time. Do you be blunt and say you didn’t finish it. Or do you make an excuse. Say something like “I made it. But I forgot to bring it. I’ll hand it over by the evening or tomorrow” ?

Now most lies are harmless. They cause ripples here and there , but don’t have any everlasting damage. As long as it’s a casual one? I think I’m good with it. Then again , it shouldn’t be too impulsive. A lie is your first priority most of the time. No , it shouldn’t because people who you think can face it? have the right to know the truth. It’s a tough predicament though.

I KNOW people who are lying to me. Lying about emotions. About how they’re feeling right then and how they pretend to be happy and just won’t admit the fact. Admit they miss something. Someone. There’s always a part of you that wants the truth. The curious , inquisitive side but there’s a scared , timid part in your brain that goes “What if it’s something bad? something that destroys everything” ? All in all , I think lying to someone’s become a part of our lives. Be it intentional or unintentional. It’s there alright.

So how many times have you lied over the past week? 😀

On a completely unrelated note? I thought of this song from the title. Thought I’d share. (you should totally read this post with this song playing. I actually tried it myself)