The Pit

Now “The Pit” is an interesting portion of our head. Obviously it’s a made up place, but it’s got a significance and a meaning for everyone. EVERYONE has a pit, a pit where they’d like to throw that certain someone and trap them. Now let me explain it to you what it really means. Ever had that one person in your life who you’re obsessed with? You’re obsessed about proving them wrong about you or proving them wrong in general. He/she irritates you to the core and you’re always hell-bent on making sure you get the upperhand on it. If there’s a debate? you’d want to be pitted against that person and obviously win against him/her. You’d want to prove you’re superior to that person, every time you get a chance. Be it change a mindset that he has about you, prove something or just that you can’t stand their guts.

Now this pit is symbolical of the pit in the Silence of The Lambs and it literally signifies you “throwing” someone down that pit and trapping them down there. See them suffer, while you look down upon them and laugh. So do you have someone in your pit? I know I’ve had a couple of students I’ve competed with neck to neck and we’d exchange pleasantries but deep down inside, I couldnt stand them. They were annoying kids who pretended they knew it all. Showed off and I for once wanted to show them that it’s not always THEM who is going to come first in class (I know, silly school fights) but I recall I did a few times and the look on their faces was priceless.

As of now? I can’t really think of my pit target right now. I’d like to prove a point to a few people but can’t really think of them. Another great thing about this pit is that sometimes you’ll have a hard time figuring who that person is but as soon as they show up in front of you, you just know it and you want him/her down there, suffering ๐Ÿ˜‰

“Sometimes in life you’ll make a pit for someone in your mind, but ultimately the only one in that pit is yourself. Which means, there is only one person who can let you out of the pit.”

More often then not, this pit can be a harmful thing and you’ll ultimately end up in the pit yourself. Now it’s upto you to get yourself out of the pit by letting go of the person who you hate/proving a point to/are jealous of and be proud of what you do and achieve or just acknowledge what the other person does. I think acknowledging would be hard and painful ๐Ÿ˜› So I’d stick to the “stop proving a point” bit. Remember, only you can get yourself out of the pit, by letting go. It’s hard to let go of people in life at times, but sometimes? You just have to.

Have a nice last couple of days of 2012 ๐Ÿ˜€

God Loving Or God Fearing?

I recently saw this Indian movie on this topic and I thought it sent out a pretty meaningful message across to the people. I won’t go into the intricate details but I’ll let you know what it was based on. Now for me, people fall into two categories. Category 1 is where they genuinely believe in God and do something, because they love God. They’ve always done it because they’re thankful for the life they have, what they’ve got and the day that’s been bestowed upon them. Category 2 has people who pray because they wish, for something or pray because they wish to appease God. In a nutshell – God Loving or God Fearing.

I’m not sure what category I’d come into because I’ve done things from both categories at times. I love God and I’ve always believed in him (or them for certain religions having multiple Gods) and I’m thankful for what I have. The life that I have. I know it’s not perfect but heck, no one’s life is. NO ONE. It saddens me when people who are perfectly normal, filthy rich or have everything most people won’t have want to whine over something that is almost insignificant for others. Especially teenagers who want to end their lives because they lost a boyfriend/girlfriend or because they feel they’re alone or their best friend “backstabbed” them. Well, think of it this way. What about Cancer patients, dying in hospitals. Blind people, deaf people. People who are amputated? They still have the will to live on and they really value life. Why can’t you? When you have the best facilities. You go to school, you have food on the table and a house to live in. Why can’t you value that fact?

So yes, I’ve been thankful for what I have. I’ve been sad at times, sad over the things/people I’ve lost but you often don’t thank God when you GET something. You just think of him when you DON’T get something and then you curse at him and how he’s doing you so wrong and doing you harm. I barely go to a Temple to pray, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love God or I’m not thankful enough. I don’t believe in going to church to pray. I think you can pray anywhere and be thankful anywhere. The number of times you go to the church doesn’t determine that. Infact I’ve seen people who pray all the time and preach how “spiritually pure” they are, do stuff that’s really wrong.

I don’t think you should expect much, just hope you get it. Yes, I’ve prayed for a team win at times, prayed I get my crush in school. I think we all do. Prayed that we get an A* or something. As long as we don’t pray to God just to get out a favour? It’s not bad. Even if you are an atheist? Just take out two minutes and just acknowledge what you have. Cherish it and know it’s value. For all those who do believe in God? Pray to thank what you have. Just believe that things will fall into place, even if they aren’t. We all have bad days, followed by amazing days where everything falls into place. That’s life. Just live it and enjoy it.

Have a nice week ๐Ÿ˜€

The Stamp Of Approval

Now you may wonder what a Stamp of Approval is? But the funny thing is, we all have a stamp of approval. How we use it and how effective it is, determines it’s impact on a person. I came across it on last week’s HIMYM episode (yea, I’m a total rip-off) and I thought this is SO true. We all do it so why not blog about it? ๐Ÿ˜›

A stamp of approval is basically you suggesting something to an individual before it became cool or suggesting a really good band/hotel/restaurant in general. Or it could be suggesting NOT to do something or not to wear something to someone.

Now let’s say you went to a restaurant and liked the food there. Your friend who comes in town next week wants to dine at a decent place and so you suggest him that restaurant. Now that restaurant has your stamp of approval for him. If he likes the food? your stamp of approval worked and he’ll trust your judgement more next time. If he doesn’t like it, he’ll probably not give as much importance to your judgement next time. You suggest a book next time and he’ll probably think it won’t be that good, coming from you.

It’s all about how good your stamp of approval is and how frequently you use it. You can’t just recommend anything and everything, but stuff that you think is good. A positive side on the stamp of approval chart and you’ll feel good. A negative side and you probably don’t get appreciated half as much.

It can be an annoying thing too though. I recall Suggesting a lot of cool songs to my friends, WAY before they became popular and anyone knew about them. One such instance was Love The Way You Life By Rihanna and Eminem. I heard it the second day, it was officially online and back then? NO one had a clue. The CD wasn’t even out yet (a month left for it to come out) and I heard the song and I was like “woaah, this is GOOD” and I shared it with a few friends. Send them Youtube links and they were like “oh, it’s alright. Nothing special”

Fast forward a month ahead and the song was everywhere and the SAME kids who didn’t like it as much back then, were singing it all the time and by that time? I was over it. It was annoying, but nice in a way that I approved of a song WAY before it was cool and it made it big ๐Ÿ˜€ but sucked at the same time that they were too mainstream and wanted to follow the “current” trend and like it because it was the “In” thing.

Like any other person, you feel proud when a show you suggest is liked by someone. A place to eat you suggested is complimented. You don’t own the place and nor the show is linked to you in any way, but that stamp of approval almost makes it “YOUR” thing. Could be your favourite show or book. Regardless to say, you’d feel good about it. I started TVD, because StupidlyAwesome suggested it to me and it had her stamp of approval in a way. I love it now and I’m glad she suggested it. I recall listening to a few artists I’d never heard of, through friends and falling in love instantly. Youtube channels, videos, you name it. So I think these stamps can be an awesome thing and it really helps people broaden their horizon on the various options out there (approved by you ofcourse)

Things that’ll always have my stamp of approval? The Harry Potter Series (duh), Backstreet Boys (I’ve heard them practically my whole life so yea, I recommend them a lot) and Ghost Adventures (because a lot of people don’t know about them or watch them) and Mcfly ofcourse to name a few. (Over One Direction. One Direction is overrated).

Stamp of Approval on BSB.

So what are some of your stamps of approval and why? ๐Ÿ˜€

The Childhood Stupidity Paradigm

I have no Idea why I used the word paradigm but I don’t know, It sounded cool and I just went with it. If you’re particular with words? Pardon me on the usage but look at that, it looks cool ๐Ÿ˜›

Moving back to the topic. It’s this Phenomenon I’ve witnessed year in and year out. Now you generally don’t tend to realize it, unless there’s a flashback which decides to randomly pop up. Generally, it’s no happy flashback and you tend to remember things you did that were just plain stupid and you got embarrassed real good. Now you look back at that you think “Ughh, I was SUCH a fool” or “How was I even doing that??” which often follows with a rage that is often directed towards your former self.ย  But guess what? In a couple of years, you look back again at your former self (this time it’s the present-you) and you find new mistakes or stupid moments.

Stupidity

Let’s just say, we make mistakes and do silly, stupid things every year! We look back at them and wonder who stupid and silly we were and we’re happy with our present self right now. But a year on from now when we look back at this present self? we find a fault or find stupid incidents again. Comebacks we should’ve made in an argument. Things we could have done differently. It’s a never-ending process and more often than not, you get mad when you get these flashbacks ๐Ÿ˜€

Now the second way to realize delve into the stupidity paradigm are picture. Pictures of your childhood. Now I’ve seen pictures of right when I was So little I could cuddle up into someone’s arms to pictures of me graduating school just recently, about a year ago. It’s been a whole list of moments and trends I followed and memories attached to them.

Let’s start with 5 year old me. I wore a cap (mom said I’d never let it go and I’d always carry it around or it’d be on my head) and it was purple! What ever happened to my fashion sense back then? I stand disappointed 5 year old me. Just kidding, but still. I looked decent but maybe not that great. Fast forward to when I was 8 and I had glasses already. I suppose it’s a family thing and I got them. These round, plastic-framed glasses (incase I broke them) and I wore matching clothes back then. I remember dressing up then and thinking “Wow, I look dashing” but now? I look at myself and go, wow. What was I THINKING?!?

Moving on to 12 year old me. Same frame, better clothes. I thought I looked really decent back then. Flashback now, I think I looked horrible (still with an upgraded version of my glasses on)

I bet she thought she looked cool

Then came 15 where I thought I looked pretty decent. Or who am I kidding? I thought I looked my best, in school or in general. Well, I saw my 10th class picture yesterday and I admit, I look WEIRD. So It’s a phenomenon where each passing year, you’re satisfied with the current-you and you don’t like the former you. You’re an upgrade on that. Same for me and I think it’s connected with the maturity level you’re at, each year that goes by. Eight-year old you might find those kids cool , for his maturity but It’s stupid for you maturity level right now. Either ways, I’m still happy how I turned out ๐Ÿ˜‰

So does this happen to you too? Let me know in the comments section ๐Ÿ˜€

Plus I thought I’d share this song, that’s been stuck in my head lately. The kind of song you’d want to blast to, or maybe dirty dance? ๐Ÿ˜› Give it a listen! ๐Ÿ˜‰

Loving Your Parents

They say you never know what you’ve got until you lose it. I don’t think people value this quote as much as they should. We take things for granted in life sadly. Even the people we truly care about. Well , they DO say you never know what you’ve got until it’s gone, but the truth is you DO know what you’ve got. You just think you’d never lose it. Life is hectic and everyone’s all clogged up in what they do and should be doing in life to be someone. To earn. You parents are busy earning money for who? YOU. You are busy studying or working probably to get a half decent life for yourself too and start a family. We’re all busy doing our own thing. Yes, we’ve got our family around us but we seldom give them the time we should, right?

Now I know it’s not possible to skip college and sit at home with your parents or to skip work and stay home to spend time with them. That would just be stupid. But what you can do is to give them time when you do have time. When you’re free from work. Not at college. Not a lot, but just spend an hour with them. Eat dinner with them or just ask them how their day was. It’ not like you’re a stranger to them, or they’re a stranger to you right? You can talk and spend some time.

No one expects and wants their parents to let go and perish but that’s the rule of nature and it will happen someday. For most of us, I hope it’s after many many years when we’re old and our bones are weak and our parents are even older and weaker. Everyone deserves to die in their own bed, gone ever so peacefully. Almost like if they are sleeping. Either ways, it’s a reality you have to face at some point in life but we don’t think about it.

What I just want a lot of you do is to introspect and think about it. Are you spending enough time with your parents and family? Just think about it. All the things you won’t be able to do say if your dad was gone or your mom was gone? It’d leave a void in my life for sure. There are so many things mom does so well for me. She can sort out my room in a jiffy when I’m too lazy to sort it out myself. She still knows where my clothes and shoes are and can magically find them when I can’t. They just appear out of nowhere when she tries to find them. I have no idea how ๐Ÿ˜›

Dad’s amazing at what he does. Always sits down with me when I watch sports with my brother and he just blends right in even if he doesn’t watch that sport. Offers a drink and encourages me when I’m down. Motivates me to do well or to study and guides me on what I should do. Things I would never be able to do alone. As we grow up, we start to value other things and people around us more. You’d probably spend more time out with friends than family but caring about your family is just as important if not more because once they’re gone? It’s never coming back. So live each day happily and love. Love fiercely and let your parents know that you really, really love them. Thank them whenever you can, because your parents have done so much in life for you and the least you can do is to pay them back.

It saddens me when I see really old parents living alone or in some old age home. They raised their children with love and their own children can’t afford them a room in their house or a house to live in?

TVD

TVD!

Even a hug every other day or a moment shared with them can make them smile and let them know that even though you’ve grown, you’re still their little child and you’ll still love them just as much because your parents never stopped loving you and never will. Why should you?

Hope you guys have a nice day ๐Ÿ˜€

What’s The Point Of Life?

We’ve all done that self realization check at some point in our lives and questioned what the point of life is? Why we’re doing what we are doing? Now obviously it’s not a game. You don’tย  have to do missions. You can’t steal cars or cause mayhem. You can’t start over from the last saved checkpoint and you don’t get second shots at it. So in a way, it’s less exciting in that field. Plus unlike games? you have no clear goal. You don’t have a final mission to complete or a boss to beat. You can’t conquer life. So it goes back to the same question. What are we in it for?

Life

Well, firstly? I think we’re all supposed to do what we should that is be humans. Show humanity, show compassion towards fellow living things and beings(sounds dramatical but we don’t often do it) and just respect the life we have and all things good around us. Needless to say, we aren’t exactly doing that. From hunting whales to animals to tigers to leopards to driving species to their extinction? We’ve done everything we could to disrupt the “balance of nature” and unlike games or fictional shows. You don’t have witches or magic that can set this balance of nature right. It’s Us. We make mistakes? What do we do normally? We try to make amends or apologize.

That’s exactly what needs to be done. Global Warming? Wars? Pollution? You name it. We’ve caused it. Habitats are being destroyed to accomodate more people and the same people who can’t live peacefully amongst each other. There’s so much hate all around. Religious hate, regional hate. You name it. So I think first and foremost? As humans you have to be a nice person in general. Don’t turn your back on people who need your help or if something cruel is happening in front of you and just walk away. Respect people around you and try to help others when needed.

About a month back, I saw this accident on the road. They were a married couple but not too old. I’d say in their thirties. The husband looked really hurt and he was down on the ground in pain. The wife seemed to have come off better and she was leaning against him. I was getting late for college but I saw it happen and went over. By then a lot of people had gathered around them but they just kept staring, discussing. Now the woman was obviously asking for help and nobody was willing to come forward and actually help them. I wasn’t sure what to do because I was late as it is, but I had a couple of teenagers standing there with me who came over as well and we called an ambulance over, sat down by the late and assured her that it’ll be alright and that an ambulance is on the way. Lucky it reached there in about 5 minutes and they were on their way to the Hospital.

I was just surprised though at the fact that people could stand there and stare but not help. You seldom do, coming to think of it. Maybe I wouldn’t either in a lot of cases if I’ve got places to go or things to do. Sadly however, we should.

Life

Secondly, It’s about doing what you’re good at. Now we’re all born with something good inside us or something that just ticks us. Could be singing, dancing, sports, literature. Anything. There’s always a thing or a couple of things you LOVE doing or you’re good at. Now It’s not always the case that it ends up being your profession too. If it does? It’s amazing. But even if it doesn’t? Don’t forget about these things and value them. Time’s fleeting and life’s short. Most of the peope reading this would have already lost their childhood by now and it’s not going to come back. Time won’t wait so you HAVE to enjoy the things that make you happy, no matter how stressful life is. At the end of the day? It’s just a Grand party. A Party that won’t stop until you’ve had enough and so you just have to live it to the maximum.

Keep These Golden Rules in mind and life will seem much easier and much more fun :

1. Lifeย isnโ€™tย fair, but itโ€™s still good. ๐Ÿ˜‰

2. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

3. Your job wonโ€™t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

4. Donโ€™t buy stuff you donโ€™t need.

5. You donโ€™t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

6. Itโ€™s OK to get angry with God. He can take it. ๐Ÿ˜›

7. Save for things that matter.

8. Make peace with your past so it wonโ€™t screw up the present. Let go.

9. Donโ€™t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Just live yours

10. Whatever doesnโ€™t kill you really does make you stronger.

11. Itโ€™s never too late to be happy.ย  But itโ€™s all up to you and no one else.

12. When it comes to going after what you love in life, donโ€™t take no for an answer.

13. Be eccentric now. Donโ€™t wait for old age to wear purple. ๐Ÿ˜€

14. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

15. Always choose Life.

16. What other people think of you is none of your business. It shouldn’t matter to you

17. Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.

18. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

19. Donโ€™t take yourself so seriously. No one else does. ๐Ÿ˜›

20. Believe in miracles. ๐Ÿ™‚

21. Growing old beats the alternative โ€” dying young.

22. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

23. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

24. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone elseโ€™s, weโ€™d
grab ours back.

25. The best is yet to come…..

At the end of the day. It’s about living each day and enjoy it because it’s never coming back. No Point sulking. Plus, you’ll realize that certain people make life much easier. Make it worth living for because each moment spent with them? Is precious ๐Ÿ˜€

Have a nice day!

 

 

Deja Vu

Been a typical weekend so far. It was lazy initially. I slept super late. Woke up early for some odd reason. Had my lunch and breakfast. Brief study period and I fell asleep again. Woke up in the around 4 and had to study again. Went out in the evening for a while and that’s when this moment happened. A Deja Vu moment and it just made me think how little we know about it. Infact till I was about 10 or 12. I didn’t even know what it was called and I used to think it was just me who had those moments. Felt weird but obviously as you grow older, you learn more. My cousin sister and I would often share such moments , whenever we had them. Sadly, I’m still not sure how or why they actually occur.

For those who don’t know what a Deja Vu moment is? Deja Vu is French and literally means “already seen”. Those who have experienced the feeling describe it as an overwhelming sense of familiarity with something that shouldn’t be familiar at all. Say, for example, you are traveling to England for the first time. You are touring a cathedral, and suddenly it seems as if you have been in that very spot before. Or maybe you are having dinner with a group of friends, discussing some current political topic, and you have the feeling that you’ve already experienced this very thing — same friends, same dinner, same topic.

Now I bet you’ve all felt that before and had it happen before. Now it obviously made me try and recall all my moments and even though I can’t remember many (I obviously forget a lot) I don’t think there have been any that are really profound or stand out. However it did make me google it though and just get a little insight out for myself. Now technically? Many psychoanalysts attribute dรฉjร  vu to simple fantasy or wish fulfillment, while some psychiatrists ascribe it to a mismatching in the brain that causes the brain to mistake the present for the past.ย  Now it becomes more profound, the experience if you suffere from a temporal-lobe epilepsy that is. Now we all know most of us don’t. So what MAKES it happen?

Again , a lot of the parapyschologists around think it’s related to your past and ofcourse, seems a valid thing considering that’s what the core of the feeling is: something that you’ve done before. It funnily reminds you of all those movies where the actor goes back in time or alters it or gets a chance to head into the future to alter it. Something like the Butterfly Effect. Now this obviously doesn’t quite work that way but the idea is fascinating nonetheless ๐Ÿ˜€

Another theory I’ve heard from a friend is on Parallel universe’s and it’s somehow an interdimensional connection and you experience or get the imprints of similiar experiences you might have lived somewhere else. Seems far-fetched to me but again, you get all sorts of theories running around. Now another one could be where you see a building in your dream and coincidentally you come acrossย  that building in real life. So at that moment , you will experience the Deja Vu. Another interesting option is where your brain catches up on a previous thought you left behind. We are continuously thinking and there are times when you forget about something and get engrossed in something else. You try to recall what you were doing or what you were supposed to do but can’t. Now in the future course if you come across that task or thing, you may experience a Deja Vu. Considering you left it incomplete and it was a part of your subconscious.

I’ll let you in on a few user accounts and experience from people and let you choose what to make of it ๐Ÿ˜€

1. “More like your subconscious storing the images, confusing your conscious mind when the images are seen again. Like trying to save the same file twice on your computer. Deja vu would be like your computer asking to replace or rename the file, but you can’t recall saving the file the first time. “

2. “In the case of deja vu it isย  a possibilty that we are neither looking into the past or present but for that minute we are in a limbo, where future and past overlap. I also know that I have dreamed my deja vu’s, and in many spiritual belief systems they say that a deja vu is a sign that you are on your right path in life”ย  (Never dreamt of Deja Vu moments so not sure what to make of that)

3. “In my dรฉjรก vu on the second repeat of the same incident I shouted stop and disrupted the event and told the two other people it was happening. Then I told them what they would say in turn. That interruption cause consternation and disbelief. However I had broken the dรฉjรก vu. “

4. “I remember one time when I had deja vu… I was at my grandmas house and my cousins, aunt and uncle were visiting. My oldest cousin asked my aunt for the hair straightener, and then I knew exactly what my aunt was going to say. She said “buried…in my car.” and while she said that, I said the same thing and explained to them how I was having deja vu and knew exactly what was going to happen. Deja vu is so weird but so amazing too. ”ย  (This one could again be on a more subconscious note. People say certain things and certain words they like to repeat. Could be your mind playing tricks, making you live that moment again through those words in your head)

5. “I understand the scientific theory about deja vu, but it does not really explain too many things. I have had the experience of knowing ahead of time what will happen. I have also had the experience of knowing – and stating aloud to others – what is around the next corner when I should not know. It seems perfectly natural while it is happening, even while my mind is thinking how strange it is.”

Honestly? the more I read into people? the more confusing it gets. Not to mention how freaky it can be, if your degree of experience is higher of different than a normal one. Either ways? I’ll never quite understand what or how it happens. Let’s just say science has the explanation. I’d love to hear your take on it though ๐Ÿ˜€

Why Do We Hate Change?

Everyone hates change whether you admit it or not, unless ofcourse you’re still 10 and you want change. You want to grow up or your life’s just miserable. However,ย  for most part we resist change be it at work or at home and pretty much everywhere around you where you feel comfortable. We as humans can be really insecure about the people around us and the people we care about. Similiarily? we get attached to the things around us. The things and objects that are connected to us. Let’s say you’ve been sitting on the same bench everyday at a park for the past two years. One day you go there and the bench is gone. They took it away because they wanted to beautify the park or something. You’ll surely feel weird and feel like something’s missing. Sitting somewhere else just won’t feel right for a while. Similiarly at school. You grow accustomed to sitting near certain people and at certain places so when you DO have to sit alone or not where you usually sat? it sucks. It really does.

We all hate it. Even the minor things. Things being shifted here and there. I don’t know about others but I hate it when things in my room end up where they shouldn’t be. It’s just me and I don’t want them ending up somewhere else even if it’s sorted nicely. Same with the things I use. My PC’s wallpaper is about a year old now I think. I’m too lazy to change it and i’ve also grown accustomed to it. Seeing it everytime whenever I DO us my PC. Tried changing it a couple of times but the new one just looked odd and it didn’t feel right- Whoosh. I was back to the old one again ๐Ÿ˜€

So yes, we try to resist it whenever we can. Be it people or things we hate it. I don’t want people to change either but it happens and relationships turn sour. People don’t stay who they were say a year ago and you can’t cope up with that fact. You fall into a routine and a habit of doing certain things and when it’s taken away? you feel empty.

Let’s just take a simple example. The internet. Your wi-fi screws up and it’s a Sunday so it can’t be fixed and you have to wait a whole day before actually having any chance of gettin it fixed. Now for people who obviously spent 3-4 hours on the net wouldn’t know what to do and where to go. Things around you don’t seem that interesting and you just want it fixed. Sure changes maybe for the better but it takes us time to acclimatise to the new surroundings or people. You leave your old house and sure the new one might be amazing. It could be the most amazing house you’ve seen but you’ll still miss your old house/room/bed. Whatever you had.

It’s a fact of life. We want things to be static because we feel comfortable around it. No risks and no danger. It’s where we feel protected with the people we know around us in a safe environment. The same routine and the same people. Like I said, we can be insecure about a lot of things and we try resisting it as much as we can. Life sadly doesn’t work that way and you have to give up at some point. Let go of old toys (I still have a few stocked up that I just refuse to let go and maybe a few clothes) and move onto pastures new. We have to leave home at some point in life. Move onto bigger things. A new room, meet new people. You realise that when you step out of school and graduate. There’s a whole new world out there and it can take a toll on you. Sure changes can suck but they make you a stronger, better person and a person who’s maturer by the day. Oh, I just wish people didn’t change. Things stayed the same but it happens and that’s how life is ๐Ÿ™‚

I’d love to know the things you refuse to let go of, the people or just a change you hated ๐Ÿ˜€ Oh and have a nice day fellow blogger. Signing out with a song.

*waves goodbye*

School Memories

*knock knock*

Hey.

 

Yes , you there. I’m talking to you. Listen up real close. I want you to close your eyes. Think about your school. Your class. You in your class, with your friends around you. With you. I want you to picture a happy memory, a funny memory or just anything that left an impact and you can’t let go of- from school.

I saw that. Still reading huh? Weren’t your eyes supposed to be closed? CHEATER!!! ๐Ÿ˜›ย  I kid.

Did it make you smile though? just thinking about it? Your school? Your class? Your friends? I bet it won’t work for a lot of people. Then again, it’s expected. School is not something we’re grown up to love. Infact, most of us want reasons NOT to go to school. Avoid studying. Avoid all the homework. Avoid waking up early. It was all pretty annoying I’ll admit. Now to put things into perspective and make it more clearer. I’ll take you back in time.

Now every year in school, we used to have this transition day. A day where the pass-outs would get to say goodbye. You’d have new appointments. New prefects and speeches and last goodbyes from the ones who were passing out. Graduating out. Ofcourse you got a farewell party as well but this was more on the lines of passing the guard on? To the next batch of prefects. I remember how the whole senior school attended it. From grade 6th to grade 12th. Everyone was there and you’d have us packed up in our school hall, sitting on chairs and lapping it all up. Taking in the whole occasion. Now me and my friends were never great listeners. Or so, never for things like these. We’d often be busy talking about stuff that could be completely random or something really fun. But yes, we never really paid much attention and we never gave it the due importance. At times when we DID pay attention? it was pretty funny. Speeches from students passing out and how they’d SO miss the school food, studying (bleh), miss the teachers, miss everything around. How it was a second “home” to them and just stuff on that lines. Stuff that made us wonder. We’d often laugh, go- ” I’m definately not gonna be doing that. I mean come on. You are graduating. Finally leaving school. BE HAPPY. Plus who’d miss school? the food? the annoying teachers?”. Year after year, my thoughts never changed. Don’t get me wrong. I loved school. To the extent that I found some great friends there. I would get to meet my friends there everyday. Plus we had some amazing times. Grew up together almost (a lot of them were with me right from the start) so it’s been a journey. As for school? I was never really attached with IT. I’d often want to take an off every other week. Not study. Not wake up early. The homeworks and the stress.

We were sly though. We often planned it out. My whole group (group of friends) used to take a holiday on a fixed day. We’d discuss it and go “alright. Let’s not come tomorrow”. That ways, we’d know we’re not missin out on anything at school. Fast forward a bit and we were in our final year of school. It was the best year I had in school. It was also supposed to be the toughest, but that thought never dampened our spirits or the thought that we’d all be going our seperate ways after that. We were pretty cheerful. Infact we always were. We did some crazy things that year (a long list ๐Ÿ˜› ) and it was an amazing journey. Balancing studies and the joy of doing what we did. We DID study too ofcourse. None of us were bad at it. Infact we all got good grades. We’d be up there. But we knew how to balance it frankly? that’s what school is alla bout. Sure you’re meant to study but it’s all about having some fun too. These years are never coming back. Neither is your childhood. Plus it makes for great stories to tell your grandchildren (i’m getting a little too ahead of myself , aren’t I ? ๐Ÿ˜› )

It was a fun year overall though. Then came the farewell party. We all suited up and girls got to dress more stylishly. Show off what they had been hiding (the nerdy ones atleast). Again a day we didn’t feel sad at all. It was all games and fun and we had a blast. I remember seeing a few girls cry here and there. Fast forward to the last day of school. Again- no emotions. We were sad in a way, but not overly sad. I remember walking out of the gate that day and we saw a few girls crying at the school gate. We laughed and joked about it. We were like “puh-leez. Crying over it? It’s just school”

Looking back now? I think what I felt back then and how convinced I was about the fact that I’ll never miss school? turned out to be wrong.

College is fun too, but It can’t match that feeling. Or the friends or the fun I had. That class. Those teachers. I miss going to school. I miss walking that corridor heading to my class. I miss my desk. I miss that ground where we played football. I miss all the stupid things we did. Things that can never come back. Sure we still meet up. All of us friends and we hang out. But it’s not the same. We’d grown so accustomed to sitting in class, doing what we did that it just felt alien out in the real world. It was fun, but different.

Nostalgia really does hit you hard. Hits you like a brick and you can’t do a thing about it. It’s funny how we don’t value things when we have it or have them. I sure didn’t value school much back then. I’m still glad though. Glad for the memories and the times we lived. We sure made it fun and made it a ride worth remembering.

So for anyone who’s still at school? I know it may sound crazy and you may not believe me? but live it. ENJOY it. You’ll study a lot in life. Do a lot of jobs in life but this? it’s never coming back. Keep smiling and value each day for what it is ๐Ÿ˜€

Signing out with the song they played on my farewell. Adios ๐Ÿ˜€

Are You The Rule Or The Exception?

Life’s a rollercoaster. We’re all clear about that bit. You’re going to have your fair share of ups and downs. Now sure, certain people will disagree and tell you that they’re probably coming off worse and that their “down” or the bad phase just doesn’t seem to end. Trust me, it will. Nothing’s static in life and people change. Circumstances change and there are numerous outcomes to just a single decision you take. Infact, there’s a different outcome for SO many of the decisions you take and they don’t just affect you, they affect a multitude of people interconnected. Friends of Friends, their friends and relationships can be pretty dependent in some odd way (It may sound crazy, but yes) ๐Ÿ˜€

We all want someone in life for us though. Someone who listens to us, someone who shares our joy and pain. Someone we can look forward to talking with. Someone who makes you smile even if it’s just a 5 minute talk. We all look for that someone in life. It’s a constant process and even if you don’t admit it? subconsciously, we all do. We’re all looking for that one. That person who makes you feel secure and good about yourself. If you already have a crush? you look forward to him/her. You look forward to talking to them again and it may seem like ages when you wait for a reply back. You hear their name and you smile. Their favourite song or any song related to both of you? makes you smile. We’re all looking for that feeling. That’s just how we are. Even when we aren’t? When we don’t have a crush? We’ll look for him or her subconsciously. Be it a cute guy sitting opposite to you at the cafe. The cute girl smiling at you at the bus stop or that sweet guy in class who you never seem to get to talk to. For some? they have their “special one” chosen. For others? it’s just a subconscious hunt. I repeat, everyone does that whether you realise it or not. No Exceptions.

” So trust me when I say if a guy is treating you like he doesn’t give a shit, he genuinely doesn’t give a shit. No exceptions. “

Now people broadly come under two categories when they look for that someone. Either you’re the dreamer, the one who sees signs. Every little sign at that or the one who takes it slow and tries to avoid attachments until he or she wants it or is ready. They wait for you but make a choice only when they want to. Category one ? pretty cheerful in general. A lot of guys fall into this category but if you have yourself a girl in this category? she’s a gem. Most girls don’t make half as much effort and it’s just assumed or it’s the unwritten rule. The Golden rule. Guys make the first move and guys call you. I’d love to shoot the person who made that rule. I wish it wasn’t the case and girls would give it a try too. Having said that, people who fall into the first category be it a guy or a girl (albeit a rare combo) would call you. Plus they believe in signs.ย  “He said it was nice talking to me” , or “He kept smiling at me in school” or “she called me over to her party and not many school guys are invited”. Now it may be a sign or it may not be one.

We just want to believe they are and that’s where the eternal optimist shines through. The thought of it being a signal that he likes you or she likes you, makes you happy and makes you smile. Category don’t try half as hard and definately don’t believe in signs. They don’t get overly attached and when they DO get signs? they tend to overlook it or ignore it. Exceptions are available. In general though, they’ll make an effort only when they think it’s right or they find it comforting. Otherwise you’d find them nice but not moving up a level or making an effort.

People in the category 2 barely reply back to your texts or take ages. They’ll be nice to you, but never move up a notch. Show interest. Agree to go out on a date or a movie. Even if they do like you? they’ll try to make themselves believe they don’t and act at their own pace. Act when they’re ready. I think every relationship’s got one of each. The one who always initiates things and the other who does feel the same way about you but may not express it just as much or know HOW to express it. Group 1 tries to see the positive side. “Alright, he didn’t call me. Why not??? maybe he had work or he lost my number…or he must be sick. Yea” .. Or? He just didn’t want to call.

” Now If a person in group two wants to make things work. He/she WILL make it work. No exceptions. If they cheat on you? they genuinely don’t care about you. If they don’t make an effort? they don’t want you. That’s the rule. The exception? when they realise what they’ve lost out on and they make amends. Change”

So what category do YOU fall into? Do you notice the signs? do you believe that special someone can be read through how he/she behaves and acts? or you wait for things to happen? Are you the rule? Or the exception? ๐Ÿ˜€

P.S –> Happy Birthday StupidlyAwesome ๐Ÿ™‚